Healing isn’t a destination or a box we get to tick off once we have done the ‘work’. It is a living, breathing, evolving process that moves with us, unfolds within us, shifts through us and continues to evolve as we grow, expand and awaken. It is not a neat or predictable path. There are days where we feel like we have finally reached solid ground, where we feel open and at peace. And then there are days when old wounds surface again, patterns re-emerge asking for deeper attention, greater acknowledgment and release, revealing that another layer is ready to be unwrapped. This is the nature of healing, growth and transformation.
We often carry the belief that healing should been clean, clear and linear. That if we did the right practices, read all the right books, sit through enough meditations or speak all the right affirmations, we will be done. Healing doesn’t look like that or work like that. Some days we are strong, clear, grounded and present. Other days we feel raw, exposed and undone. Both are part of the journey.
Healing isn’t something that we achieve it is something we live, a living journey that requires surrender, acceptance and acknowledgment. It asks us to meet ourselves again and again, each time with more compassion and more patience. It asks us to honor every feeling that we once pushed aside and teaches us to listen, not just to the pain but also to the silence beneath it. It demands a new relationship with ourselves one that isn’t rushed or bypassed. One that allows us space and time to feel, integrate and truly shift.
Healing is the a return to what has been hidden under layers of conditioning, protection and survival. It is the peeling back of the layers and the integration of all that has been separated, denied or fragmented. The forgotten grief, the silent shame, the inherited stories. Its not about erasing what has happened, its about transforming our relationship to it by learning to sit with what we once had to run from. Even when it hurts, when it is uncomfortable. Especially then.
Healing is deeply unpredictable. It doesn’t always look like light or love. Sometimes it looks like rage surfacing after decades of suppression, or letting go of everything we thought we wanted, or facing the parts of us that feel too much, too broken and too messy. Sometimes it looks like nothing at all, just the quiet work of witnessing and waiting as we spiral through the same lessons yet each time with a new awareness.
Our own personal path to healing is unique. We don’t always know how it will unfold or where it will take us. There is always an element of mystery to the process that cannot be predicted. When we trust the deeper intelligence at work and the journey itself, it can be the most liberating experience of our lives.
Healing asks us –
To slow down, to listen, breath, and feel. We cannot rush the process or the journey and must learn to honor its timing.
To feel everything. Not just think about our wounds, but feel the grief, the rage, the fear, and the joy. True inner healing begins when we stop numbing ourselves and start paying attention to what is calling to be addressed.
For presence by bringing our awareness back into our body, into the moment and into what is here right now.
For self-compassion. We do not heal by judging ourselves, we heal by meeting our broken places with love and kindness.
For trust. We may not always know where we are going but our soul does. The path of conscious healing is walked by taking one step at a time.